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Posted on 2005.02.02 at 18:02
Current Mood: sadsad
I just cried my eyeballs out walking down the street. An old man pushing a trolly with his shopping in with a walking stick in one hand. He was moving so slowly hunched over his shopping. I went to the shop and I walked past him again a second time the man was still walking the same bit of street. Why was he out on his own it's dark? Doesn't someone help him with his shopping if so why the fuck not? I expect he may probably have wanted some independance, but wtf happened to the street lighting? What happened to the police men walking the street. I wish I could have helped that man, but I didn't know what to do...


ishtar127a at 2005-02-02 18:25 (UTC) (Link)
Pretty much a smile and maybe an offer to help. I know you don't want to embarrass them, but it's a toss up, really; some get angry if no one offers to help without asking, some get offended if you offer unsolicited help...

Me, I ask, and if they think it rude, I just smile and go away as asked, head high. You remind me of last summer, sunning on my deck, and a lady who had walked the half-mile to the grocery store and had to swipe a store cart to come home, as her purchases exceded her strength and it's a very hilly route. I saw her plunk down on our steps to rest, looked up from my book, and asked if she needed some help. Her instinctive response: "No, I'm fine!" as she's catching her breath. So I just smiled and said alright, and pretended to continue reading. About a minute later, she changed her mind, and I got dressed, pushed her cart home, and carried the bags upstairs to her door while she sat down outside. And I met someone I had never known before. :D

You do what you can, aurora, and let them judge if they want to receive help or not. Most are not resentful of age that changes their life style. The few who are? Let them enjoy their crankiness if they want to. Neither one is a direct reflection on you. And if you make the offer, you won't seem so sad in yourself over it.
aurora_bee at 2005-02-02 18:28 (UTC) (Link)
Thanks hon, it's very difficult to know what to do but if you offer I guess that helps. It proves that there are some people that care. I just hope he's got home ok and is safe and warm.
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